Hey homies, So a couple weeks ago I got out of a nearly 5 year straight relationship (we knew each other for 6 years but didn't call it official until a year in). With the way it ended, it made it relatively easy to move on. Very long story short, there was a girl I work with and have history with from a few months ago (ex and I went through a rough patch, broke up, got back together but while I was single I hit up this girl from work) that I want to date. I told her that I've felt that way for a bit, and that I really want to take her out. She was surprised since it was so soon that I've gotten out of a relationship, but I told her it was a done deal and I was done with it completely. She said she'd think about it, gave me a hug, and I left. Today she texted me saying that she didn't think it'd be a good idea since I'm so fresh out of a relationship. Here's the brief conversation that followed. Her: Hey so I thought about it and I talked to my mom about it and I don't think it's agood idea just because you just got out of a long ass relationship Me: For sure, it probably is a good idea that I take some time to myself honestly Her (Several Hours Later): Yeah that's what I was thinking NOW here's the response I wanna say, I need some input on if it's a bad idea or not. Yeah I mean if you change your mind after however much time or whatever I'll most likely still feel the way I do, like it's been a few months and I've felt the same way the entire time lol
ngl, if it's been a couple weeks, that seems like plenty of time. She likely is using that break-up as a reason to not date you Honestly if she cared about you the way you care about her, she'd be all up on that tryna get with you, especially after several weeks I just get the vibe she's not interested. C'est la vie If ya really wanna still go for her, I think the text you posted is pretty good for the most part. Maybe take out the "lol"
There's a million type of relationships, so the way you leave them all differ. One thing I can tell you though, be open and honest about your feelings. If you strongly feel about her, let her know. Then just ask her if she still wants to wait, give her time to think about it. And let her know that you will still feel strongly about her in a week or a few months too, so its up to her. That way you can just flirt and you both know what's up also what I think the mother refers to is that after a very long relationship, the first 'new' person you fall in love with is about 80-90% of time a rebound and that relationship wont last long for whatever plethora of reasons.
Tbh once you ask and they say no then there's no use in pursuing it any longer. Them saying anything other than yes usually means they aren't fully entertained with the idea of dating you.
Lol forgot to mention a major detail earlier in the post. She had said not too long ago she'd be down to date me
All in or all out. That choice isn't for me to decide, but if you want to go for this girl you need to go for her. Otherwise you need to get rid of that idea. My thoughts at least.
Oh boy I've been where you are many times. What you gotta do really is just be honest with her and whenever you feel ready, go for it! Girls love guys that are honest with them and if you two have a really good connection, then I'm sure it can work out in your favor. Relationships take time believe me, I've never been in one but I do rush to get to know a girl and then it all slips up. Don't be nervous and make sure when you change your mind, put a little heart next to your message.
Idk if you read the post but he's already asked her out. Basically the only advice you gave him was to put a heart next to his messages <3
My guess is that the young lady doesn't want to be a rebound or be perceived as a rebound. It would be hard not to think that after such a short period between your last relationship and now. Granted, think about what your relationship status was when she said she would date you. Maybe it was easy to say she would date you when you weren't available just to make it easier for her. She could also have another guy that she's talking to and it's simply bad timing. My biggest advice for you is to give it time and communicate how you feel. Try to respect her reasons, but talk to her about it.
